Noodle* on this…
You can get through life with bad manners, but it’s easier with good manners. ~ Lillian Gish
In our tell it like it is, anything goes society, etiquette, also known as good manners, seems quaint, if not downright antiquated. In fact, good manners are becoming so rare that British actor Bill Nighy said, if you have an enthusiasm for what they call ‘good manners,’ sometimes people don’t quite believe you. I’ve had that once or twice before, where they assume you can’t be for real.
What are good manners?
Good manners are about doing the right thing at the right time and the most basic rule of etiquette is being courteous to everyone, regardless of their position or the situation. Every person is entitled to basic courtesy and respect.
Having good manners means that we:
- Treat everyone we encounter with courtesy and respect, regardless of how the other person behaves. According to Jackson Brown, Jr. Good manners sometimes means simply putting up with other people’s bad manners.
- Listen to others without interrupting.
- Arrive for meeting or appointments before the scheduled start time.
- Use proper grammar when speaking and refrain from inappropriate remarks and off-color jokes.
- Refrain from using cell phones or electronic tablets when talking or meeting with others.
- Don’t listen to or spread in gossip.
- Remember that our actions speak louder than our words. If we do not use good manners, no one will listen to what we may say about their importance.
- Say please and thank you often.
What are the benefits of good manners?
Like other topics I’ve written about, such as silence and compassion, good manners are a source of power and a vital skill worth developing and using every day. Good manners attract attention and build respect, which in turn can lead to promotions and pay raises at work . Good manners also support personal relationships, build trust and prompt others to treat us with good manners. In our personal and professional, good manners create a psychological open space where problems can be resolved.
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use. ~ Emily Post
Awareness means that we respect the feeling and opinions of others even if we do not agree with them.
In summary: Good Manners = Respect.
How do you show respect for others, even if you don’t agree with them?
Share your ideas with us in the Comments section below.
* To noodle: A verb meaning to mull over, think about, contemplate, ponder, puzzle over or brainstorm