Monthly Archives: March 2015

Your Weekly Noodle: March 25, 2015

Man in personal flying machine as an example of being totall authentically you

You are uniquely, wonderfully you. Celebrate the authentic you!

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There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.  Be You…Be Free…Share.
~ Steve Maraboli

Celebrate the authentic, beautiful, unique you. As my favorite philosopher, Dr. Seuss said: Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!  And the true you – the authentic you is the best gift you can give your family, friends, co-workers, neighbors and customers.

We are all imperfectly messy human beings and the imperfectly, messy person that is you is far superior and much more interesting than any person you may pretend to be or what someone else thinks you should be.

Celebrate the unique, beautiful person you are by doing one thing today that is authentically you. Share your authentic experience with us in the Comments section below.

Read more about authenticity and well-being.

* To Noodle: A verb meaning to mull over, think about, contemplate, ponder, puzzle over or brainstorm.

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What Does Authenticity Look Like?

Seattle skyline seen through myopic lenses represents seeing clearly by being authentic

René Descartes (1596 – 1650) described an authentic person as one who follows a moral inner voice that drives that person to act and think responsibility. But, what exactly does that mean?

What does an authentic person do? How do they act? What do they believe. Being authentic means…

Being Honest
Telling the truth without “spinning” things or withholding information, Telling the truth defuses stressful situations. Managers and co-workers will not go “Greek” and “kill the messenger” who brings bad news if you present it in a tactful, respectful way.

Sharing Information
Information is power and in some organizations, people withhold important information to exert influence or power over others. As co-workers and managers what more information they need about a specific situation.

Asking for Feedback
Don’t wait for your performance review to find out how you can improve your job performance. Ask your manager

Living Your Values on the Job
Review your values and how you live these values. Practice them daily. You may want to write a short affirmation for each value. An affirmation is a statement that expresses a desired situation, that when repeated regularly leads to positive actions that support the statement. For example: “I value compassion and I live it by recognizing and responding to the needs of my customers and co-workers in a caring, respectful and timely manner.

Notice that it is written in the present tense with active verbs – not “I will recognize”; but “ recognizing.” Affirmations help use change our thinking and actions in the present, not at some future time.

Keeping Your Word
If you make a promise, keep it, even if it is an implied promise such as “Let me think about it and I will get back to you.” Acknowledge and apologize when you break a promise and then fix the situation. This builds trust.

Keeping an Open Mind
Do not make assumption. Keep an open mind and give others the benefit of the doubt.

Check You Authenticity
Use the questions in the Your Well-being @ Work Profile to find areas when you can enhance your authenticity. Specifically, look at these statements:

  • I have someone at work that I can talk with confidentially about personal matters.
  • I get along well with my co-workers.
  • I communicate openly and respectfully.
  • I recognize and thank others for their help.
  • I am good at my job.
  • I am dependable; people can count on me to do what I say I will do.
  • I strive to live up to the duties and responsibilities given to me by others.
  • I am proud of the work I do.

Consider this… Remember, like most things in life, being authentic is not a destination but a journey and it is not always an easy one but it is the most satisfying journey you will ever take. Actress and author Shirley MacLaine has some good advice about being authentic:

I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I’ve written for myself, and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part.

Your Weekly Noodle: March 18, 2014

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orange stick with 100% real deal printed on it

You are the real deal!

What it means to be authentic:
– to be more concerned with truth than opinions
– to be sincere and not pretend
– to be free from hypocrisy: “walk your talk”
– to know who you are and to be that person
– to not fear others seeing your vulnerabilities
– being confident to walk away from situations where you can’t be yourself
– being awake to your own feelings
– being free from others’ opinions of you
– accepting and loving yourself

~ Sue Fitzmaurice

Authenticity is about being the real deal. Select one item from the list above – one in which you may not always be “100% the real deal.” What is stopping you from being the real deal and how can you be truly real in that aspect of your behavior?

For example, in the workplace, the opinions of others, especially managers and customers are very important. How can I balance my concern about these opinions with my self-esteem and self-worth? Share your thoughts with us in the Comments section below.

Read more about being authentic at work.

* To noodle: A verb meaning to mull over, think about, contemplate, ponder, puzzle over or brainstorm.

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Your Weekly Noodle: March 11, 2015

Noodle* on this…Image of chocolate box and poster for forrest gump movie with tom hanks

It’s like Forrest Gump said, ‘Life is like a box of chocolates.’ Your career is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you’re going to get. But everything you get is going to teach you something along the way and make you the person you are today. That’s the exciting part – it’s an adventure in itself.

~ Nick Carter

Your career – your work is like a box of chocolates. Each chocolate represents a situation or an assignment. Even when you get to pick, you may not get exactly what you think you are getting. Things aren’t always what they seem. So, what do you do when you get an assignment that you though was a chocolate cherry, but it is a chocolate dipped prune?**

What can that prune teach you about your work, your co-workers, customers, or organization? What new skill or bit of information can you learn?

Share a prune type experience and what you learned about it in the Comments section below.

A Final Though About Chocolate and Work

Chocolate is the first luxury. It has so many things wrapped up in it: Deliciusness in the moment, childhood memories, and that grin-inducing feeling of getting a reward for being good. ~ Mariska Hargitay

* To Noodle: A verb meaning to mull over, think about, contemplate, ponder, puzzle over or brainstorm.

** I am not disparaging prunes. I hold them in the highest regard. No offense is intended to worfLieutenant Worf and all lovers of prunes and prune juice.

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Your Weekly Noodle: March 4, 2015

 

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His Holiness, The Dalai Lama

His Holiness, The Dalai Lama

One of my fundamental convictions is that basic human nature is more disposed toward compassion and affection. Basic human nature is gentle, not aggressive or violent… I would also argue that when we examine the relationship between mind, or consciousness, and body, we see that wholesome attitudes, emotions, and states of mind, like compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness, are strongly connected with physical health and well-being. They enhance physical well-being, whereas negative or unwholesome attitudes and emotions—anger, hatred, disturbed states of mind—undermine physical health. ~Dalai Lama

Recent neuropsychology research supports the Dalai Lama’s conviction that “basic human nature is disposed to compassion.” Many researchers, including Richard J. Davidson at the  University of Wisconsin, Madison and his associates discovered, through rigorous scientific research, that just as we have a biological imperative for language, we have a biological imperative for kindness and compassion. Davidson calls it “innate basic goodness.” And, like the human imperative for language,** our innate goodness, our biological imperative for kindness and compassion must be nurtured. We must attend to it and nurture it or it will shrivel up and die, just like a plant that is not watered.

An Experiment in Nurturing Innate Kindness

After learning about Davidson’s research, I decided to conduct an informal experiment in nurturing basic kindness to see what would happen. For three days, I acknowledged every person with whom I crossed paths. It was not a big deal, just a hello, eye contact, a head nod or a smile. It was amazing what happened. A young man on the street gave me a high-five, a cashier in a book store asked about my flowered shopping bag and discussed the latest Martin Cruz Smith book with me. I said hello to a security guard as I left a hotel and when I returned, he was still on duty. He asked me about my day and walked me to the elevator. In a Vietnamese restaurant, the server and I discussed the connection between Albert Einstein and chopsticks (the eating utensils, not the music) and yes, there is a connection.

Practicing basic kindness just felt good.  My feet didn’t hurt as much (I had walked a lot) and things I was worrying about gradually took on new, less troubling perspectives. Nurturing my innate kindness boosted my well-being and seemed to touch those with whom I interacted.

What can you do this week to nurture your innate kindness? Tell us about your kindness experiment and how it affected your well-being in the Comments section below.

* To noodle: A verb meaning to mull over, think about, contemplate, ponder, puzzle over or brainstorm.

** Every group of human being throughout history has developed some form of language.

Image courtesy of the Buddhist Climate Project.